Many people believe that finding true love is something women are more interested in. Novels and movies often focus on women suffering through cursed relationships in search of love, and eventually finding it, rather than placing a man in the spotlight. But men, too, can desire and long for true love. So, what does true love look like from a man’s perspective? Let me try to answer that.
True Love and Social Expectations
Here, a fundamental misunderstanding can arise. Men are often perceived as the less romantic side of society, at least theoretically. So, this is the first notion that needs to be challenged. Of course, this isn’t easy to prove, as many men indeed behave in a way that could be described as “stone-cold,” which doesn’t help in this regard.
By “stone-cold,” I mean that instead of looking for love, they’re seeking casual encounters and often hint at this intention. This can be seen in their communication and gestures. Pickup lines are often limited to a “how far will you go” kind of approach.
Clearly, it’s difficult to argue that men genuinely search for true love with these kinds of interactions.
The social factor here is that strength and toughness are expected of men, often prematurely, which should not, and does not necessarily, suppress their gentle side.
Because that side does exist, just in a different way than it does for women.
The Outstanding Characteristic of True Love Through a Man’s Eyes
For a man, the most authentic kind of love arises when he feels he can be vulnerable in the relationship. He doesn’t always have to play the “tough guy” role; he can face challenges and express painful feelings without fear of being ridiculed or compromising his masculine identity.
This doesn’t mean he should appear weak all the time, but if he feels safe enough to share his failures and insecurities, it’s a strong sign he feels secure and is close to experiencing true love.
The General Qualities of True Love Through a Man’s Eyes
If a man were to describe true love in general terms, he would probably highlight the same values that matter to most people.
These might include:
- Shared interests
- Common goals
- Supporting each other without rivalry
- Humor and shared laughter
- The ability to share thoughts and problems
- Mutual attentiveness
These are universal values, and even if only half of them are present in a relationship, people would consider themselves lucky. In this way, there isn’t a stark difference between men’s and women’s expectations.
